Ever tried online dating?
So, here's the thing. It's not that I don't WANT to date, it just takes effort, money, understanding, time, patience...okay so maybe I don't want to date. er...maybe.
I'm 32, no kids, never been married. I have had 2 long term relationships in my life, 2 years and 4 years, respectively. I have traits that many women do find desirable, I'm tall, intellectual, chivalrous, steadily employed and I'm told I'm witty and funny.
I like the IDEA of online dating. Going to a website on my own time, from the privacy of my own home. I can browse profiles, search according to proximity, and filter out women with kids. This may seem shallow, but I just don't have it in me to be an 'insta-dad.'
So let's say I search for people within 50 miles of my location, no younger than 25, no older than 35, no kids. I end up with about 250 results. Then, I eliminate all those profiles that contain obvious spelling errors, or they don't know the proper context for they're, their, and there. Then, I can eliminate people that can't properly spell the name of the city in which they live. Seriously, cannot spell the bloody name of the place on earth they reside. Cincinnati. Yup, if you live in Cincinnati, please be able to spell Cincinnati. I never thought I'd encounter that in my life. I finally end up with about 30 females.
Next, while I do appreciate people from all points on the political spectrum, I eliminate those that describe themselves as 'progressive' ideologically, as this is just a nice way of saying 'socialist.'
Then, while I'm not a shallow person, let's be honest, looks are important. So I can easily eliminate any girl that doesn't float my fancy in the looks department.
What am I left with? Nothing. Zero.
Have you ever had any luck with online dating?
Did you have to lower your standards or let some of your principled morals of religion, or politics get in the way?
Maybe I'm being too picky.
That's what my mother tells me.
Please don't be like my mother.
I wish I had some advice for you, but I feel I am in a similar situation. Age 30, no kids, had a few semi-long term relationships, not interested in a readymade, turn-key family.... I've had trouble deciding if I feel like dating at all. It would be nice, but if I remember correctly it was a lot of work, and would take away from my RC time!
I have actually considered the online dating thing as an efficient, systematic solution, but I suspected my results would be similar to yours. I am an only child and would like to someday make my parents into grandparents, but lately I am feeling like I may have "missed the boat" and maybe at this age I can't afford to be picky.... but why settle? I certainly don't want to anything hasty.
Surely there has to be a few intelligent females left that don't look like sea donkeys and haven't already started a family... Maybe not.
I've been happily single for a couple of years now, so why do I even pressure myself into thinking that I need to date? Besides of course not wanting to end up being a lonely old creepy guy who builds toy airplanes in his basement, I'm not really sure!
If I figure it all out someday I'll let you know. I've accepted the unlikeliness of meeting Ms. Right at the RC flying field!
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