Okay I finally got aboard on Gamespy!
My buddy who is a top notch IT wizard figured out how to get into gamespy and reset a bunch of stuff with one of his special CD tools he has made, using his "special" software!
One of the things it can do is go search the hard drive an find previous installations of Windows regardless of the fact they have been erased and had new Windows installations. Such as I am running Win 7 Pro, but it can go back and find my previous install of Windows XP Pro
Then it goes back into all of my FSX history and finds all my previous usernames and passwords.
So we rebooted my PC and tried a previous username and password and PRESTO FSX multiplayer worked!
Put that up your tailpipe Gamespy!!!